How should we live and where should our responses come from?

Most often in life we live and respond based on weak, faulty and incorrect impetus. Without the move of the Holy Spirit in our lives and without keeping in step with the Holy Spirit most people live and choose their responses from/by emotions, circumstances, selfish desires, comparison to other people, approval from other people and other such temporal/worldly motivations.

We must receive from the Lord His perfect revelation, power and Spirit to live this life based on the eternal things of His Word and His character that will never pass away.

If I choose my responses based upon how I feel about something at the moment I will choose things based upon insufficient, incomplete and incorrect starting points. My emotions are based upon two things: what I am looking at and what my physical body and senses are going through. If my physical body is tired, worn down, sick, fatigued, stressed, etc then my emotions most often are going to be similar. I don’t know all of the physiological reasons for this but I do know that it is because God created us and intended us to have holistic health and there is a definite and distinct tie between the wholeness of my body and the wholeness of my emotion. Furthermore my emotions go to different places based on where I am looking and I believe this is a gift from God to let us know when our eyes have been in the wrong place. If my eyes are on Him and my entire being (mind, body and spirit) are resting in Him my emotional state will be once of peace, happiness and contentment. However if my eyes are on Jesus, but my body or mind are fatigued from simply living in this fallen world, my emotions may run low. Regardless of where my emotions are, my choices should be made because of the Word and revelation of God. Only God is unchanging and unchangeable. Therefore what He speaks and reveals will be perfect each and every time because it flows from His eternal nature of love and holiness.

To consider this a bit further we must recognize how many times responses are made out of a place of comparison to other people or seeking approval from other people. It makes much sense that this happens, but that does not make such a motivation and impetus correct. It is so easy to see the people around us. We are fascinated by one another. We are drawn to people. We want to love and be loved by people. This is by the gift and design of God: He created us in community/relationship and He desires that we live in loving relationships with Him and others. However if the love we are looking for is only attainable through us living a certain way, that love is faulty, temporal and ungodly. God’s love for us is not dependent upon how we act or look. He loves us with all that He is simply because of who He is and who we are. To live and respond out of seeking approval from others or because we are comparing and contrasting ourselves to others is a surefire way to live a life of ups and downs, rejection and disappointment.

This is my message to you: listen to the voice of God. Read the Word of God. Pray to the Almighty, perfect, holy  and loving God of the universe. He will not lead you astray. His directions to you will be perfect every time. His instructions will always be for your good and His glory. Furthermore when we live and respond according to His ways, we will not face guilt, shame, fear, disappointment and disillusionment. Rather we will have peace and contentment and can rest assured that with God directing our responses we will actually live a life of love and significance to others and to His kingdom. Please stop reacting out of how you feel or how you perceive others or how you think people are thinking about you, instead. choose to react and respond based on the simple, powerful, true, right, good and holy Word of God. He will never lead you astray and His perfect words, ways and blessings will never end!!


No one else can do it for you

No one else can choose for you. No one else can think, feel or act for you. We each must choose for ourselves who we will serve (Joshua challenged the people of Israel with this choice). We each must choose for ourselves how we will live.

When circumstances are especially difficult and we ask the Lord to help us, one thing we must know is that we cannot sit passively back and let someone else just “sort it out”. God is able to do things in and through us, but only as we choose to allow Him to. Remember: when we seek the peace and joy that God gives we must choose to receive it from Him. He is not going to force His peace and joy upon us.

Many times in our lives we find ourselves in the middle of a “bad day”. And then we wish or dream or hope or pray that things will get better. We long for the moment when things will once again be “good” and we will be happy. And yet we often wait for God to somehow magically change our attitude even while we are sulking or complaining. God has the power to anything and yet He has given us the gift of free will and therefore won’t go where we don’t allow Him to. If we ask Him to make things better but don’t make the choice to allow Him to change us, will things really get “better”? If we ask Him to guide us through a particularly trying circumstance but we don’t allow Him to shape, form and re-tool us so that we personally can be victorious, will anything really feel ¬†better or complete? What good are changed circumstances if we are still broken within?

No other person can make your choices for you:

  • No other person can choose to eat, sleep, work or play for you
  • No other person can choose joy, peace, love, hope, contentment for you
  • No other person can choose or have a good attitude for you
  • No other person can choose or live out Christlikeness for you
  • No other person can worship, pray, serve or become a disciple of Christ for you

In all of life no one can do it for you, though Christ can live life in you and through you!

Only Jesus can bring you hope, peace, joy and contentment, but not through the changing of our circumstances but rather through the changing of us. And He won’t change us unless we let Him.

So, whatever you are facing, choose now to let Him change you. He might also change the things around you, but He is far more concerned with you than with passing circumstances. And when you ask God to make you feel better, have a better attitude, be more like Him, have more contentment, truly feel full and alive, realize that no other person can do that for you. Only God in you can make it happen and then only with your permission and your partnership. He won’t do it alone. You have to work with Him.

So stop waiting for some other human to make you feel better. Seek the Lord with all your heart. Ask Him to change you. And then personally agree with Him and partner with Him in whatever He wants to work in you!